I am honestly in complete confusion as to why all wedding vendors and personnel seem to feel it’s necessary to rebuke us for not arranging everything a year in advance. Sure, we procrastinated like nobody’s business, but we were already getting this at T minus 6 months. What do they do with people who have 6-month engagements, tell them they’re really getting off to a bad start planning their lives together? It’s not like we can say, “Oops, my bad, we’ll remember that for next time.” This is a field where what everyone says doesn’t always go, and the 10% who don’t follow the rules seem to have the best time and come out the least scathed. So it’s natural that I, as one of the 10% in most other arenas, would attempt to bull my way through this. In retrospect, that was a bad move, if only for the flood tide of social censure I’m enduring just because bouncy people make me nuts and I like to avoid them.

But anyway. Do these people not talk to each other? Do cake decorators never speak with dress shop attendants and find out that all their wedding planners give people the same advice? More importantly, do they think this is in any way endearing to the customer, or that it’ll make them want to recommend the facility to someone with better planning skills? Especially when the customer is sick to death of being told how insufficient she is and just wants the thing around the corner to knock her cold when it comes at her out of the promised nowhere so she can wake up after the wedding and go on with her life.

4 thoughts on “You’re not helping

  1. The wedding industry at large likes to lecture anyone. Whether you have 2k or 2 million to spend on the wedding, they feel the need to tell you are doing things inadequately.

    I think the funniest was the cake vendor for my wedding who said, “Wow, most brides are a lot more finicky.”

    So if you’re not an incompetent child, you’re a sulky cat.

    But, you’re not going to call these people and invite them to dinner after you’re married so stop worrying about them. Either that or bring a spray bottle and try to cure them of their bad behavior problems. 😉

  2. Waaah? Okay, I had a comment here…

    Long and short of it was that I had one wedding vendor say to me, “Wow, you’re not as finicky as other brides.”

    If you’re not an incompetent child with these people, you’re a sulky cat.

    But short of Liz Taylor, you don’t have to see these people eight or nine times in you life, so just blow them off. Either that, or start clawing their furniture and bringing them dead birds. 😉

  3. Stacy: I guess it’s time for us to turn off comment moderation. I enabled it because we were getting spammed with links for online casinos and pharmacies of dubious repute, but you’re not the first real commenter to miss the notice.

    Fortunately, WordPress makes it easy to look at (and delete!) the latest few comments, and we haven’t seen any attacks of the level that some of the bigger (mostly Movable Type-based) blogs have reported, so it shouldn’t be too much of a disaster to go back to insta-comments for now.

  4. I’ll miss that comment moderation. It made me feel like my comments were special. . . like they’d passed some kind of grueling selection process. . . I’m so disillusioned. 😉

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